You feel the disconnect. You see the change. Maybe there is less affection, less communication, and less effort from both sides. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day routine and maybe you feel like you have a roommate instead of a spouse.

You have been learning more about the benefits of Bethesda Couples Counseling and you are ready to bring it up to your partner.

But how? When? How Can I get my partner on board for couples counseling?

Don’t Play the Blame Game

Chances are if you are feeling it, then your spouse may also be aware that the current state of your marriage is less than ideal. It’s important to avoid pointing fingers and come to a mutual understanding that you both want better for the relationship.

Reaffirm Your Feelings for Them

It’s also helpful to reassure them that you still love them. Many people think couples therapy is a result of one partner being ready for a divorce. Giving them that reassurance of how you feel can help warm them up to the idea of couples counseling.

Understand There is Still Stigma Around Couples Counseling

You may have even been reluctant to the idea at first, too. Expect your partner to feel the same. Be prepared to explain the many preventative benefits of couples counseling such as having a safe space to openly communicate, and learning tools to create more intimacy and have a deeper understanding of your partner.  It can also be helpful to mention other strong couples you know who go to couples counseling.

Give them Time to Come Around

Lastly, you cannot force your partner into couples counseling. If your partner agrees to couples counseling, only to pacify you for the time being but has no intention of examining the relationship and communicating openly and honestly, it may even create more friction. Give them time to think about it and hopefully come to the decision on their own.

Bethesda Couple Counseling can give you the opportunity to work through your conflict with a third party. If you are interested in learning more, please contact us today.