It can be challenging to see our loved ones struggle, especially when they have experienced a traumatic event. We want to do our best to be supportive, but sometimes we may feel helpless.
It is estimated that 70% of adults in the United States have experienced a traumatic event at least once in their lives. And while not all traumas lead to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), these events can still have lasting psychological and physical effects on the human body. Having this understanding is a significant first step in supporting friends and family with trauma. Our Bethesda Trauma Therapists understand that it can be helpful to have tips on how to support your friends and family.
Be Patient.
After a traumatic event, your loved one may act in a way that doesn’t make sense to you. They may avoid certain places or things or react in specific ways in situations you don’t understand. It’s important to practice patience in these circumstances and be able to respond in a positive and supportive way.
Educate yourself on the signs of PTSD.
Different people have different emotional responses to trauma. Things you may notice if your loved one is experiencing PTSD include:
- Difficulty Sleeping or Nightmares
- Flashbacks or intrusive memories
- Anxiousness
- Self-Blame
- Shutting down or withdrawing
Listen without judgment or trying to “fix” things.
Listening is less about responding and more about being present. Focusing on what they share without judgment or offering “solutions” can go a long way in their healing.
Know your own limits.
Secondary trauma is the emotional distress from witnessing or having knowledge of a loved one’s traumatic event. Be sure it’s not just you but a team of family, friends, and professionals that can offer a supportive role. It may be important to seek your own counseling as well.
Perhaps most importantly, offer them support and encouragement to seek help from a Trauma Therapist.
As Bethesda Trauma Therapists, we know some of the challenges you may face while supporting a loved one with trauma. If you would like to learn more about seeking support for yourself, contact a Bethesda Therapist today.
